Long after the money is gone, you may realize you made a financial error, which can leave you feeling empty and frustrated. The fact that you cannot reverse what has already been done is a depressing realization.
I've experienced my fair share of these situations as an entrepreneur. I've discovered the hard way that taking short cuts frequently results in failures in my quest to create businesses on a tight budget.
The real keys to success are patience and passion; if you skip any steps, you'll only learn expensive lessons.
I've been scammed of money on several occasions.
I believed I was making a wise investment each time, but if something seems too good to be true, it usually is. Although it wasn't simple, it was essential to get over the embarrassment of these financial errors.
Here's how I turned my financial missteps into a success story and how you can follow suit.
A Message Buried in the Mess
Every financial error serves as a disguised teacher.
At first, it may not feel that way. Losing money hurts, whether it's from overspending, a bad business deal, or a scam. But every setback teaches you something. One of the most important lessons I've learned is that trust is something you don't give away easily. It is earned.
Take a break if someone is trying to sell you a "gold nugget" that guarantees results or quick returns. Take a step back. Investigate. The more appealing the offer seems, the more cautious you should be.
Pay attention to what you are learning from the situation when those "gold nuggets" turn out to be silver, or worse, fool's gold. Accept both the loss and the newfound understanding. Put it in writing. Think about it. Make a commitment to avoid repeating the same error.
It's not useful to repeat mistakes. Learn with purpose. Develop sensibly. You don't have to learn everything the hard way like I did; your path is yours.
Mistakes Aren’t the End of the Story
You don't have to bear the heavy burden of shame.
Tomorrow is always a new day, regardless of how wise or expensive your choice was. Unless you allow it to, your financial future is not defined by your past. Feelings of regret or frustration are acceptable, but try not to let them define who you are.
Think of every morning as a reset button. Although you cannot go back, you can make different decisions going forward. You're starting over from experience, not from scratch, so change your perspective.
Persistence, not perfection, is the key to financial freedom. Take what you have, start where you are, and proceed with a purpose. Refusing to let your past burden you is more important than forgetting it.
Commit to Yourself and Your Growth
The pledge you make to yourself is the most powerful one you will ever make.
I had to reaffirm my commitment to my vision, values, and goals after each financial error. I had to make a commitment to myself that failure would not hold me back. I had to have the sometimes blind faith that I could still succeed.
You've changed since you made that bad financial choice. You've evolved. You now know. You're now presenting yourself in a different way. That is important.
This is your story of recovery, and it begins with a choice: the choice to continue. Continue making investments in yourself. Continue to learn. Don't give up. No matter how tiny it may seem, every step you take counts as progress.
Stop Looking Back
It is needless and draining to bear the burden of all your financial errors.
While some choices might have long-term effects, most can be fixed with time and persistent work. What you decide to do next is what counts most. Though it shouldn't haunt you, the past can serve as a guide.
Give up the guilt. Forgive yourself. Be kind to the person you were before. With what they knew, that version of you was doing the best they could. You know more now. You can now perform better.
You'll have more energy to create something new the more you break free from the hold of shame. The moment you regain your self-confidence and quit punishing yourself, your recovery will begin.
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When Time Resets, So Can You
There is an opportunity to start over every single day.
You are not the same person you were when you made those errors. You've transformed. You've made it through. You remain upright. That's significant.
It's simple to allow our financial errors to define us. However, the majority of prosperous individuals have experienced financial losses at some point. Many have been scammed, overspent, or made poor investments. Their ability to continue is what sets them apart from those who remain stuck.
Don't let the mistakes of the past ruin your future. Use them as stepping stones instead. Make use of them to develop empathy, resiliency, and wisdom. Your true wealth lies in that.
Your Comeback Is Possible
It's not about acting like everything is fine or adopting toxic positivity to turn your financial missteps into a success story. Self-compassion, radical ownership, and a readiness to try again are key components.
You're not in the rear. You're not damaged. It's powerful that you're rebuilding.
Consider this a reminder:
You can always start over.
Despite your past mistakes, you deserve financial stability.
You can start writing a better money story right now.
You are not a failure because of your mistakes. You become human because of them. And the true transformation occurs when you transform your suffering into a purpose.
Write your comeback story now. One step at a time.
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Cervante Burrell, M.Ed., CFEI®, is the founder of Money Tips Money Hacks, a financial wellness educator, husband, and proud father dedicated to helping others thrive financially from the inside out.
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“Take what you have, start where you are, and proceed with a purpose.” I will be placing this in my planner so I am able to view it on a daily basis! Another great read.
Every word of this is like a balm. Thank you so much for this encouragement.